My condolences / Lynn (none) My condolences to your family. Until I found your website, I did not know what was wrong with my husband. He is a US Marine and has been to Iraq twice. Now I know better how to try to help him because of your family's beautiful memorial for your soldier. Thank you so much. I hope you realize how much you are helping people.
EMDR offers hope to Vets with PTSD / Real Patriot (Fellow Service Member ) I want to say that I'm sorry for your loss. Hopefully what I have to say can help others.
There is a treatment methodology called EMDR that is effective in treating PTSD. See:
It is a VA approved treatment, but I wouldn't wait for the VA to offer it. If you have any doubt at all, get your service member / veteran into a practioner at first sign of PTSD or depression. Find a clinician here:
If you have to pay cash, pay cash. It is well worth the money!
I'm a veteran and I had this treatment for EMDR and I have my life back. My memories were detoxified by the treatment.
And it isn't like talking treatment. You won't end up "on the couch" for the rest of your life, but you will make it to your next birthday.
Many of the service members and veterans won't want to go into tretment, but ask them to do it for you.
Again, my condolences and I hope this can help others.
It should never have happened / Patience Mason (mourning his loss ) My heart really goes out to Joshua and to his family. We not only have a war in Iraq, but there is one at home for veterans with PTSD. I believe it is led by people who have never been to war and cannot conceive of the damage war does to people. So instead of providing services, they cut budgets and leave them isolated with their pain. We must provide outreach and care for our veterans. Joshua gave his life for his country just as surely as if he had died in Iraq, but he had to endure a period of mental torture before he died, because he did not get the care he needed. His family has done a great thing here in provididng this website, and the bill in Congress.
PROUD TO BE THE DAUGHTER OF A VIETNAM VET / AMY CHRISTAL (NONE) YOUR SON IS A HERO,I CAN STILL HEAR MY DADDY CRYING IN HIS SLEEP,WAKING UP WITH NIGHT SWEATS AND NOT EVER BEING ABLE TO WATCH A MOVIE CONCERNING ANY WAR,MY FATHER WAS SHOT 3 TIMES IN COMBAT,EVERY YEAR ON VETERANS DAY I WELCOME HIM HOME,BECAUSE AS IM SHURE YOU KNOW HE AND COUNTLESS OTHERS WERE NOT AT THE END OF THAT WAR,A GENTLEMAN WHOM HE SERVED WITH HAS PAINTED A FEW PORTRAITS OF MY FATHER,ONE IS THE BATTLE OF GOOD FRIDAY.THEY ARE CURRENTLY ON DISPLAY IN NEW YORK,I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS,MAY YOUR SON REST IN PEACE KNOWING HE IS A HERO,AND TAKE COMFORT KNOWING HE IS IN GOD HANDS AS AN ANGEL....GOOD NIGHT AND GOD BLESS
Life never gets easier once you lose someone you care about / Stevi Kozemczak (none)
First of all, I'd like to offer my condolences to all the family and friends. I lost my grandmother a year ago this last December. I'm not a parent, and I can't imagine the loss of your child. All I know is that it kills me every day to know she's not with us anymore. I miss her more and more with each passing day. As I said, I can't imagine losing your baby, but I'm sure it's the worst thing you could ever go through. Especially since he was loved by many, not only as a friend and family member, but as a fellow soldier. I just married my boyfriend of one year, who is now serving in Iraq. He left for Iraq the 28th of December, 2006 and we were married the 22nd of Dec. I only hope that he doesn't have to go through what so many others do when they come home. His father, my father-in-law, is suffering from PTSD, as well as MS. He was placed in the VA in St. Joseph, Missouri when my husband was VERY young. This tore apart his marriage, and contact with his children. He's now remarried and is living for the new days. My prayers go out to all who are suffering from PTSD, and they're families. And I pray that the soldiers over there, don't come home and find themselves in this situation, as well. I give my greatest of condolences to those suffering the loss of this fallen hero. Please understand that we're all praying for you. Although we can't possibly understand what it's like to be in your shoes, we still care. I thank you for your awareness of PTSD, and your support for all the others suffering. THANK YOU SO MUCH! Support our heros in battle, preparing for battle, as well as the one's coming home from battle. WE LOVE YOU!!!! God Bless you all. -Stevi
First of all my deepest sympathies to Josh's Family. My brother was in Nam, he came home nothing like the brother I knew before. I was to young to understand.
Later in my own life , I witnessed my own husbands death, I have PTSD now. It has not been an easy road but Ive had more help than your son I'm sure. Its horrible that our men and women who give so selflessly are being treated like disposables once they are home
If at anytime I can be of help , please do not hesitate to E-Mail me .
Thank You and R.I.P
condolences/ Denise Darling (none/ military member ) My condolences to you about Joshua, I didn't know him. my heart is felt for your loss. My cousin SGT Michael Marzano was killed in Hadiath Iraq, May 7, 2005. It almost been two years it doesn't get easy. Some days get better for me i can go with out crying about him. i know his parents can't. Also know there is a family out there willing to help in your need. Don't be afraid to call upon them. Joshua will not die in vain. his memory will be kept alive.
My deepest condolences to your family / J. W. (another veteran )
As a Viet Nam Veteran I have seen first hand the devastation PTSD has on the vet who suffers, and his family. I am glad you have caused the government to take steps to provide better care for our returning men and women.
I ask that once in awhile you remember the Viet Nam Vets whose nation forgot and allowed patients to die in VA hospitals without proper care. We're old now and will soon be forgotten, but here's a wish from one of those whose country turned their back on, or at most times treated without respect. Remember us once in awhile because our suffering will not be remembered by anyone else and you have seen firsthand what can happen.
Sorry that I include my request, but to soon our story will close and no one will remember us.
Thank you, and may God's hand touch you with his love.
Sorrow at your loss / J. Hudson (fellow soldier ) "I have eaten your bread and salt, I have drunk your water and wine, The deaths ye died I watched beside, And the lives ye led were mine."
To all soldiers, Rudyard Kipling,
Most loving thoughts of Joshua Lee Omvig / Dorothy Willse (through this site )
First of all I must stop crying to be able to write this. As a parent of a daughter only 1 year younger than your wonderful son, it is unbelivable that in this Country we just abondon our Hero's once they are home. One would have thought this would have been learned after the horiffic experiences of our Viet Nam Vets. My father was a veteran of WW2 and served in the Pacific Rim and also Europe, then came home and died at a relatively young age of 65, after catching a fungus in his lungs somewhere while in Asia. The Army abondoned him as well. I grieve for you as parents,Mr and Mrs Omvig, that your son had to suffer the consequences of this most horrific war. All you are doing to keep his memory alive is highly comendable, but as parents of our wonderful children that is just what is done!! My thoughts and Prayers are with your family and every other family touched by this horrible war, Dorothy
You are not Forgotten here!!! / Q. Madp (None) Thank you for your service Joshua!! You will not be forgotten here!!
Thank you for bringing this to the forefront / Brian M. (Brother in Arms ) My thoughts and prayers with my lost Brother in Arms and his family, my true condolences. I know so many others who fought in Iraq or Aftganistan who came home with this. Many thanks for the website, so much information here.
Another life saved, Thank you / Alan W. (brother in arms ) Family of Joshua
You have no idea what this sight has done. I am alive today because of it, and you. Thank you
Thank God for This message!! / K. Kolan (None) I am currently experiencing a "family meltdown" due to my son's hidden wounds. I have happened upon this site by just looking for help; or at least a way to understand what is happening to all of us. My marriage is almost over, I don't know how to bring back what we had prior to his deployment. My deepest sympathy to your family; and you may have saved one more life. God Bless You!
I know what PTSD is all about.... / Don Vine (Brother in Arms ) I am a former Phoenix Police Officer who was on the force for 10 years when I was involved in 2 shootings. In the first one, I had to shot and kill an armed robbery suspect after he pointed his weapon at fellow officers. The second shooting (a month later), was a dog shooting where I had to shoot an aggresive 60lb. pit bull. After I shot the dog, I turned around 180 degrees and took a richocet 40 caliber bullet off of my stomach.
I had to do my duty and have no problem with what happened other than it affected me and no one has offerred me any help, but 6 free counseling sessions a year. My department abandoned me and I have been on disability for over a year. I developed back problems from a weight gain of medication I was given for the depression and anxiety. I now have high blood pressure and heart problems. I still go to counseling, but can not find anyone that specializes in PTSD to help me. I do go about my life trying to hide the depression, anxiety, and PTSD from everyone I meet. I have tried to explain it to others, including family, but they don't know what to do or say so they just leave it alone.
It is a roller coaster ride as I have good times, but mostly bad. Now with my health deteriorating, especially my heart problems, my quality of life is getting worse. Whats worse is all of my medical problems, even with insurance, are totally draining my finances. I have recently been going through the worst depression that I have ever had. But yet, I continue on with what little energy I have. I will not let this take me out and will continue to try to find help.
I just wanted to show that this not only effects the military, but it effect emergency responders too. I don't know where any of this will lead me and where I am going to get the money and mindset to continue to fight, but God will find a way. I can tell you that at least there is one person who knows about everything and is always there, free, for anyone who asks. That is God and no one can take that away from me.
God Bless each and everyone and, please, do not ever give up. EVER!!!!!!
Sincerely, Don Vine
Love & Respect to all those whom Josh died for--Veterans & PTSD Friends / Dana Hardy (Friend of Aunt Julie ) It will soon be a year since Josh passed over the veil in a bid for peace because of the out of control emotions and pain he was experiencing internally and mentally. There have been times in my own life that I have had some of those moments, but it was not my time, as it was time for Josh to pass over the veil.
I think of all that has happened because of ALL the individuals and loving family members who love and miss Josh.
I have no doubt in my heart and my mind that Josh is helping direct this event for help for our Veterans from the other side. I firmly believe due to my spiritual belief that Josh chose this life pattern in order to help others by his sacrifice. He also serves to be an example to all of us that get close to the edge, to not cross over unless it is truly our time -- which our Higher Self knows.
To the family and loved ones on this side...please keep up your hard work for this service for our loved Veterans. Did you know that some Vets have never served in a war zone but yet experience secondary PTSD. So we must remember them in this journey as well.
May the Creator Bless all in this walk and give us all the strength and feelings of love to walk in love and not anger or fear...but love of our self, and others.
Love and Peace, Dana
Deep Condolences / Vicki Stevens (None) I am a member of a online support group for PTSD. This site was limked to the member site. I wish to offer my deepest condolences on your loss. Reading many posts here. I too almost lost my husband on Sept 18th 2006, a suicide attempt. He is a Viet Nam Vet. I hopefully have started him on the path to recovery. The depression and and the isolation they go through is terrible. I agree with a earlier post I read about really needing to get the goverment to open up more and help these young men and women who are serving in Iraq and Afganistan. These young people are serving two and three tours over there. Again my thoughts are with your family as this holiday season comes with another year of your loss.
To the Family / Terri Jones (Fellow Gold Star Mom )
The Reunion Heart Poem
Since Heaven has become your home I sometimes feel I'm so alone; and though we now are far apart you hold a big piece of my heart.
I never knew how much I'd grieve when it was time for you to leave, or just how much my heart would ache from that one fragment you would take.
God lets this tender hole remain reminding me we'll meet again, and one day all the pain will cease when He restores this missing piece.
He'll turn to joy my every tear, with thoughts of you I hold so dear, and they'll become my special way to treasure our Reunion Day.
I myself suffered from PTSD when I returned from Vietnam but Josh you are also one of the many Heroe's that has made the Ultimate Sacrifice for your country + you will not be forgotten. May the Angels watch over you because you are now in a better place.
God Bless' John From Pa. 3rd Marines Nam 67' Owner Of OMFH
Condolences/ Dixie Miller (none) Please accept my condolences and at the same time I applaud your continuing efforts in getting the word out about Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
I am a widow of a Vietnam Veteran who served from 1967-1969 with the 4th I.D., as a demolitions engineer. He died in 1991 due to multiple cancers and lots of other diseases. PTSD was not treated appropriately during his lifetime. He and I and our children were told he was "another crazy Vietnam veteran, as they all were".
My daughter Michelle started a Yahoo group called "Second Voice" http://groups.yahoo.com/group/second_voice/ as in a second voice for her father and all veterans. We invite you to view it and join if you choose. Michelle's bio is message #340, and tells of the life we lived with Mike and of his sufferings.
It is our hope that everyone educates themselves with regards to the wrath of the aftermath of war or any traumatic experience humans endure. Those that come home need to not be left alone but quietly, physically loved and supported.
When people ask about "closure" I realize they have no idea what such a loss is about and need to be educated. I still miss Mike and at times still cry when I think of him.
So keep this site alive and keep Josh's memory in the forefront and in time hopefully our nation, our politicians will understand that there is no such thing as an "allowable loss".
May God Bless you, your family and all those who loved Josh and all those who have experienced the loss of a loved one as a result of PTSD.